Even if you do out-earn many of your colleagues, making them aware of that fact does more good than harm. It might breed resentment, sure, but on the other hand, it might be a valuable tool for them. The more information employees have about what kind of salary they can command, the more they can negotiate and advocate for themselves.

Because what’s good for them is your highest priority, right? No point in their learning to demand more at the risk, God forbid, of being told “no.” We can’t suffer rejection. A rejection is worse even than a microaggression, and we know how bad those are.

So-called “transparency” is the “give a man a fish” of millennial job etiquette. Teach a millennial to negotiate, and sharing information with strangers will not be necessary. If the job market is tight, workers can demand raises or find new jobs. (Just asking implies a threat to leave. Many bosses know that granting a raise is their best choice when asked for one by someone with the temerity to ask for it.)

Believe it or not, in many jobs, the savvy and willingness to ask for a raise are attributes that employers value. You don’t hurt yourself by demanding your worth, and you learn as much by being turned down as you could learn from knowing a co-worker’s pay. (Try asking a friend, rather than compelling disclosure from someone who is, after all, a competitor.)