I started laughing at “we have played and flirted occasionally,” and by the time I got to “so our relationship was again physical at times” I was roaring. But when I got to “breast squeeze and ‘bruising kiss’ from a sometime lover,” I completely lost my shit. You have repeatedly had sex with the guy, your relationship status has not changed, and yet now, if he takes liberties, he’s harassing you? Are you fucking nuts?

Did you “play and flirt” with the seventh graders before they groped you? Had your relationship with them before the groping been “physical at times”? If not, how is this situation even remotely like that one?

Must we toxic males make a note that when a “sometime lover” with whom we have “played and flirted” and had a relationship that was “physical at times” puts on her coat and grabs her car keys, she is saying “no,” and not “last chance to cop a (playful) feel”?

If somehow, your sometimes lover with whom you have played and flirted and had a relationship that was physical at times has crossed a line, you should be able to tell him that that particular form of play is out of bounds. If you can’t say that without losing his “friendship,” you never really had it. That leaves only the question of whether you’d miss the (not unwanted) sex.