I would argue that I don't need to fit the stereotype in order to be feminine, so I would describe myself as feminine anyway.

You might as well say that you don't fit the stereotype of a tuna hoagie, but you still consider yourself one. You are redefining, which is a meaningless exercise. The words "masculine" and "feminine" exist only to capture gendered traits. To call gendered traits "ridiculous" is to reject the words created to refer to those who exhibit them.