I'd say all that is true. It still sounds like you're blaming white women for the behavior of white men.

If it's true, then what should I change so that it won't "sounds like" what it sounds like? I blame White men for not creating more opportunities for Black men, but I don't see how White men could have told their wives to stay home so that a Black man can earn a decent living. That's why an ethos needs to be a consensus thing. Unless men and women agree that a woman's place is in the home, then a woman's place isn't in the home.

The thing no one ever talks about is that working class white men grudgingly accepted "white feminism" in the form of their white wives working because families require two incomes to keep the standard of living white men used to be able to support with one job.

I talk about it all the time, but I think you have the horse before the cart. Feminists claimed the right to work before the price of things a family needs one of (a house) rose. Today, women have to work because doubling the workforce has weakened workers' negotiating power.

But, yes, there is more to the plight of workers than the influx of women to the job market. Globalization has definitely suppressed wages, as has automation, but then, that's more reason why policy should favor one worker per household. The new childcare tax credit may allow more women to stay home, and that will be good for wages and children. A UBI would also help.

Most white women who are out in the workforce have nothing to do with any kind of conscious feminism and wouldn't even call themselves feminists.

Yes, but they are like the dog that didn't bark. Why aren't they complaining more loudly about not being able to rear their own children? They are not feminists, but they are fellow travelers.