we’re somehow expected to be both homemakers and career women,

Only self-styled feminists expect that, because they are not really interested in what's good for women, but in what's good for women who can find great jobs and, therefore, affordable child care. The women caught in the tide of things costing more because so many couples have two incomes aren't really their concern.

Feminism should not be about ending gender specialization; it should be about making specialization less onerous. But the elitists don't want that.