You’re the one who stated the dichotomy, not me. You can be ironicAF in your reply to me, but your article was dead serious.

Yes, teaching Black boys to respect women is especially important because Black boys are harshly and unfairly judged in that regard. But you did not make that claim. Needing to teach your children something for a reason that White people don’t have to mention, and feeling obliged to state so, reveals a problem, and it is your problem.

The semantic conflation of “problem” with “fault” and “responsibility” with “accountability” is keeping Black people from preparing for equality should they ever get it under a form of government worth having. And the failure to appear ready is (whether or not fairly) politically relevant. If you can teach your son to treat women with respect to save his life, why can’t more Black parents teach their kids to respect each other to save their lives, not just from each other but from the racist views that their willingness to kill each other seems to some people to confirm?

So long as you mistake anger for wisdom and righteousness for effectiveness, you have a problem. I agree that White people caused Black people to view the world pessimistically. But George Washington Carver wrote that where there is no vision, there is no hope, and the Bible says that where there is no vision, the people perish. Black people must visualize a better world and prepare themselves on a generational level to enjoy it even as they fight for it. That’s hard. That’s, well, a problem.